Let’s talk about something that doesn’t get nearly enough attention in our conversations about identity: asexuality. We’re all familiar with LGBTQIA—but let’s be honest, the “A” often gets left on the sidelines. Why is that? Perhaps because asexuality is so foreign for many people to grasp. We live in a society that celebrates hypersexuality, sometimes in hedonistic forms, and those who don’t fit the mold are treated… well, like neurodivergent people often are—as if they’re broken, flawed, or somehow incomplete.
Let’s break this down. Hypersexuality and promiscuity emit a certain frequency—a loud, constant buzz that society amplifies through media, music, and culture. It’s the “norm,” and anything outside of it—especially asexuality—is seen as peculiar, unnatural, or even something to be “fixed.” What’s worse, this same dynamic parallels how society views neurodivergent individuals.
Asexuality is not a deviation; it’s a valid orientation. And interestingly, it’s quite prevalent among neurodivergent people. This isn’t a coincidence. Neurodivergent brains often process the world differently, including relationships, sensory input, and yes, sexuality. For some, the energy others invest in romantic or sexual pursuits feels overwhelming, unnecessary, or even uncomfortable. And that’s okay. There’s nothing to “fix” because nothing is broken.
Now, let’s take this a step further. Have you ever considered that Jesus might have been asexual? Think about it. Jesus abstained from romantic and sexual relationships. He lived a life of purity, not because he was “repressed” but because he was focused on a higher calling. The Bible consistently talks about abstaining from defiling the body and living in alignment with spiritual purpose. Could it be that Jesus’s asexuality—if we dare to consider it—was a profound example of this?
And yet, in today’s world, how many people might identify as asexual but feel forced to conform to societal norms? The dissonance this creates—the pressure to “perform” sexually or romantically when it doesn’t feel authentic—can wreak havoc on the mind and body. As a functional diagnostic nutrition practitioner (FDNP) and health coach, I see this all the time. Stress, anxiety, and even physical symptoms manifest when people live out of alignment with their true selves. Forcing oneself into a mold that doesn’t fit only leads to burnout and imbalance.
Society’s obsession with sexuality has consequences. Hypersexuality, promiscuity, and the normalization of casual encounters come with risks—from STDs to emotional disconnection. Meanwhile, those who identify as asexual are often dismissed, misunderstood, or even mocked. But here’s the truth: asexuality isn’t a void. It’s a frequency all its own—a quieter, calmer resonance that deserves just as much respect as any other identity.
So, why don’t we talk about this more? Maybe because it challenges the status quo. It’s easier to dismiss asexuality than to question why society equates worth with sexual desirability or activity.
To my fellow neurodivergent folks who might also identify as asexual: you are not alone, and you are not broken. Your identity is valid. Your existence is a testament to the diversity and beauty of human experience. Don’t let society’s narrow definitions dictate how you see yourself. Embrace your truth. There’s nothing wrong with marching to the beat of your own drum, even if the world doesn’t quite understand the rhythm yet.
Let’s keep this conversation going. Let’s talk about the stress of conformity, the power of authenticity, and the freedom that comes from living in alignment with who you really are. And let’s not shy away from the hard topics. Because when we do, we empower others to find their voice—and that’s where real change begins.
Mindful Shift Health Solutions LLC 